The concept of "letting people feel their feelings" may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importance of allowing others to experience emotions like anger, disappointment, or frustration without trying to fix, dismiss, or control them. Listen to unpack the internal discomfort that often drives our impulse to manage others’ emotions, which can stem from fear of being misunderstood, shame, or a lack of
What’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openness rather than interrogation. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren share their personal journey into couples therapy, attachment theory, and the development of resources to help individuals heal from anxious attachment. In this episode, they talk about topics such as: Difference in Curiosity and Questioning Impact of Questioning How to Lead w/ Curiosity Communicating Emotional
What’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openness rather than interrogation. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren share their personal journey into couples therapy, attachment theory, and the development of resources to help individuals heal from anxious attachment. In this episode, they talk about topics such as: Difference in Curiosity and Questioning Impact of Questioning How to Lead w/ Curiosity Communicating Emotional
Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment
Explore the tension between personal experience and factual correctness in relationships, particularly in boundary-setting and decision-making. The hosts discuss how relying too heavily on logic and research to "win" arguments can create gridlock and emotional disconnection, emphasizing the importance of curiosity, empathy, and slowing down difficult conversations. They demonstrate how shifting from a debate-style approach to one focused on safety and understanding can lead to more productive and fulfilling discussions between
Rituals create trust, connection, and predictability between partners. Whether it is daily acts, like greeting each other after work or having a bedtime routine, or larger, less frequent traditions, like weekly date nights, annual celebrations, or even rituals for personal space. Without these conversations, there an be an unspoken expectations around rituals that can create frustration and misinterpretation in relationships. In the episode, we talk about topics such as: Defining Rituals
Learn how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal—reinforce each other in a self-perpetuating loop. By identifying these cycles and understanding the emotions driving them, couples can shift from blame to curiosity, fostering better connection and repair. In the episode, we touch on relationship topics such as: The Root of Negative Cycles Common Protective Moves Emotional Drivers of Conflict Recognizing & Breaking the Cycle Repairing the Cycle Give Me
Dive into the “taboo” topic of sex, get advice on when to say yes and when to say no. This episode explores how partners can navigate differences in sexual desire by recognizing how things like stress, emotional connection, and personal preferences impact intimacy and why a simple "yes" or "no" isn’t always the best response. In the episode, we touch on topics such as: Understanding Individual Preferences Accelerators & Breaks (Turn
Dive into boundaries, emphasizing their importance in maintaining personal energy, trust, and healthy relationships. The hosts delve into the pitfalls of rigid or non-existent boundaries, offering strategies to navigate requests thoughtfully while prioritizing individual values and needs. By sharing real-life examples, they highlight how to say "yes," "no," or propose counter-offers based on personal capacity and relational dynamics. In the episode, we touch on topics such as: Binary Boundaries: Resentment vs.
How to help, how to love, and how to communicate with the pursuers in a relationship. We hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer, so if there are two podcasts you listen to of ours, let this be them! In this episode, we discuss: The protective moves that withdrawers gravitate towards How withdrawers handle conflict How we can love our withdrawer
